The beer has now been sitting for 6 weeks at around 13C/55F, and the gravity has not changed at all. It's a steady 1.016 - a bit higher than my usual stouts due to lactose in the recipe. It tastes ok. Not as sweet or chocolatey as I had hoped but drinkable enough, and it doesn't seem to be changing a great deal (yet).
Do you think it's safe to bottle? I don't know what's growing on it, but I don't want to end up with bottle bombs if it's something that can consume lactose in the long run. People often recommend leaving these things a year, but if the gravity is not changing is there any point?
Here is a photo taken through the Better Bottle if anyone wants to take a guess at what the white stuff is:



